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My Married Life

Yesterday officially marked our 1st month as husband and wife. It’s been a while since I have last posted here in my blog. These past few weeks were spent with a lot of errands since the “one week before the big day” started. Ever since I started my two week leave, my life went around preparing for the wedding, packing/unpacking my clothes, practicing loom bands and fixing my name. I think that explains all – why until now, I have yet to do the reviews for my suppliers. And by the way, I have to thank my suppliers once again. I still owe them big time.


I’ll make a separate blog entry about the wedding. Right now, let me just express myself as a newly wedded wife. After the wedding, we enjoyed a 5-day vacation in Bali, Indonesia and went back to reality. Life then became a little different. I started living in Bulacan, well, temporarily in my in-laws. We're waiting for our house to finish probably this August or September and then we're good to go! Living with my husband's parents' house isn't a nightmare at all just like what I hear from some people. Not only did I have another half in my life after the wedding day but also I have had another set of parents who treat me as their own just like how they do to my husband and the rest of their children. My husband told me one time, "Hindi na ako ang paborito, ikaw na ang paborito ngayon." 

Coming back from vacation, I have a backlog of emails that I need to catch up, a ton of report that I need to work on, and of course a dozen of stories I need to hear from my team and friends at work. It was good returning to work carrying a brand new surname, "Javier". But tons of paper works ate up my time after we got our marriage contract - I need to update everything. I still have yet to do bank updates though and I need to make a list to keep me on track. 

My husband and I agreed to spend weekends in our house until we transfer to our own. The first time we went home, I went to our room and saw my sister lying on my bed. Not only did I think, "my sister invaded my bed!", but made me realize I'm really on my own now together with my husband. When I saw my brother when I woke up, he greeted me smiling as if he also wake up from reality that his eldest sister has just got married, lived to another house and he's so happy she's there for a while to spend their weekend with them. I realized I missed our house and my family, my comfort zone. But life has to change when you enter in to marriage and the first thing to do to overcome fears after marriage is by welcoming in your heart your other half's family. 

Just be appreciative - that's the key to having a smooth relationship with anyone - whether with your in laws, friends and your own family. I lost my bracelet yesterday and I was so sad. But my husband told me, "isipin mo nalang mabibili nila yung mga kailangan nila sa nakapulot or nagsnatch ng bracelet mo." And that welcomes me to what my mother-in-law teaches us - good karma. I feel bad, of course but I just wished someone's life gets better because of my bracelet. Whether a boy gets it and gives it to her girlfriend or mom or uses the bracelet so they can eat - it doesn't matter, so long as someone gets happy because of that. I believe in good karma - and when something gets wrong, something better will come. This belief erased the sad feeling within myself and this happened because of what my husband told me last night.

You see, having a better half helps you become a better person. And I am so lucky I married the man who slowly brings out the best in me. That's why they say "BETTER" half - that person must better than you to teach you the best things in life.

Happy first month to my Husband! :)

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